It is a June wedding seemingly like other weddings. The beautiful chuppah (marriage canopy) for a Jewish wedding. The floral arrangements dotting the pews. The family and friends, joyous and excited. The bride and groom so into each other, so overwhelmed at this moment that they are beaming and tearing up simultaneously. One wonders if they will make it through their vows; both bride and groom are romantics and prone to crying at weddings.
The Rabbi approaches the chuppah. A Reform Rabbi, he sees the Jewish wedding not as one with a rigid structure or format, but one enriched by and celebrating the Jewish tradition. The Rabbi begins:
I’d like to take this moment to begin with the Shechecheyanu – the blessing we say upon reaching a new season. For today, we are not only celebrating the marriage of this beautiful couple, but also, the fact that we can gather together for the first time in a year and a half. The Shechecheyanu is the perfect blessing to mark the momentous occasion.
The Rabbi asks the crowd of family and friends to recite together:
בָּרוּךְ אַתָּה יהוה, אֱלֹהֵֽינוּ מֶלֶךְ הָעוֹלָם, שֶׁהֶחֱיָֽינוּ וְקִיְּמָנוּ וְהִגִּיעָנוּ לַזְּמָן הַזֶּה
Baruch Ata Adonai, Eloheinu Melech Haolam, shehechiyanu, v’kiy’manu, v’higianu lazman hazeh.
Blessed are You Eternal Spirit who has given us life, sustained us and allowed us to arrive in this moment.
From My Jewish Learning
We nod and say amen, aware that we have emerged tentatively, like tender green pea shoots, out of coronavirus hibernation and into a new season.
Joy and gratitude
We celebrate this season
Shechecheyanu

For dVerse
A joyful occasion indeed!
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It really was!
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Lovely and very joyous. 🙂 Actually, I don’t see rice thrown at Gentile weddings either in recent times. It seems to be bubbles or something else.
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Interesting. I guess I can’t believe everything I see in a stock photo / read on the internet!
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מזל טוב!
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🙂
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Aww, this is so beautiful. It sounds like a wonderful moment!
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It really was an amazing wedding – from the couple that’s perfect for each other, to the Rabbi who was the perfect officiant, the whole ceremony and dancing reception, and the sheer fact that we were sufficiently post-pandemic that the wedding was even happening (it was originally scheduled for 2020)
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Thank you for sharing this beautiful prayerful moment
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It really was just the right blessing for the moment!
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Thank you for sharing. This is lovely. ❤
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It was truly an amazing wedding. And amazing to be there, finally. (Wedding was originally scheduled for 2020 and postponed)
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They say that there will be a lot of weddings now when we leave the pandemic behind us… I have heard that everything is booked for next summer.
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Makes sense. My cousin got engaged recently and they’re looking at a Fall 2022 wedding. Seems to be the earliest availability for their preferred venue
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“we have emerged tentatively.”
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I applaud your pure enjoyment of the wedding. I can never resist snark even on happy occasions 🙂
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Oh there are plenty of things I could be snarky and judgmental about. The venue was odd. The menu choices were strange and the food was something of a mixed bag – some things were tasty and some things were decidedly not, and the timing of the food was also odd. There were some awesome music choices and some bizarre ones. The wedding dress and bridesmaids dresses were not dresses I would have chosen if it were me.
All that said, it was one of the most amazingly joyous and fun wedding ceremonies and receptions I have ever been to.
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Now you’re speaking my language. I hope you had someone to share these judgements with. That’s always my favorite part.
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Well, my sister was all too happy to share her judgments with me! I agree with a lot of them, but honesty, my overall takeaway from this wedding really was sheer joy.
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All joking aside, it’s always nice to be able to come away from something and be able to say, you had a good time.
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It’s a blessed feeling. Something to rejoice about. Wonderfully written! 🙂
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Exactly! It was just so amazing to have something to celebrate. Thanks!
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This transition is an interesting time. Concurrently hopeful and uncertain. Here in Australia we target COVID elimination. We get very worked up and crack down if there is just one case. The rest of the world seems more different than ever. Finally, I can see you have a lot to teach about the world of Judaism. I look forward to reading more.
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“Concurrently hopeful and uncertain” is a good description. I think a lot of people feel that way. I feel like in the US, it’s definitely been more of a rush to get things back to normal as soon as possible, in part due to the economic impacts. That said, my personal COVID risk tolerance has been relatively high throughout and I’m an extreme extrovert who coped badly with stay at home orders; I had little hesitation about dancing and partying hard at this reception!
Thank you – I’m so glad you found the Jewish references here accessible.
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Beautiful! What excellent timing for this couple. Extra special after the lockdown
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Hey! I’ve missed you! How are you doing?
The wedding was a COVID rescheduled one – initially planned for 2020 and moved to June 2021. It was such an amazing wedding. Bride’s mother seemed to think they should have gotten married in 2020 with fewer people, no dancing, etc., but I’m happy they rescheduled.
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Very positive affirmation and ceremony. Well written.
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Thanks! I really liked the Rabbi who was officiating. He just really understood the uniquely beautiful nature of the occasion.
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I say the shehecheyanu blessing every morning for a new day!
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That’s beautiful. How wonderful to be able to celebrate each day with a shehecheyanu!
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… helps me keep from losing my marbles to turn my eyes to something greater than me …
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It is such a good blessing of gratitude for appreciating life and newness
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