2023 Just Started And It Already Sucks

To be honest, I knew it would…

Late 2022, I got a sale promotion email from a retailer of special occasion dresses. It was a good deal. I started putting items in my online shopping cart.

Then I realized that I had no special occasions in 2023. There was absolutely nothing on the calendar for 2023.

Well, technically that isn’t quite true. There are some things on the calendar. Someone (not me) is expecting a baby. Someone (not me)’s baby is turning one year old. But,

  1. These are things happening to/for other people
  2. Neither is really something that I‘m looking forward to

Nothing to look forward to.
New year, but same shit.
New year, no plans. Photo by Jess Bailey Designs: https://www.pexels.com/photo/close-up-photo-of-yearly-planner-beside-a-pen-1558691/

How It Started

Day 1 of 2023, Husband proposed an idea for Passover 2023, a holiday I normally like. His idea wasn’t completely ridiculous. The reality was that the Passover experience I’d previously enjoyed was not going to be an option this year or possibly ever again.

But it just felt like he was twisting the knife. In addition to having nothing to look forward to, he had to take a Jewish holiday I might have enjoyed and ruin that too.

January sucks.
I hope Spring will be better;
it probably won’t.

State Of The Marriage 2023

Predictably, we started fighting. If you couldn’t tell, our marriage is fan-fucking-tastic. We are in couples’ counseling. No one (except, now, the entire internet) knows this.

The irony is that our wedding anniversary is coming up. My mother called, excited to gift us some theater tickets. I thanked her for the anniversary gift.

“Oh no,” said Mom. “The tickets are for your birthdays.”

(Note: it is nowhere near either of our birthdays.)

“I want to give you something else for your anniversary,” Mom continued.

“You mean like treating us to dinner after the show? That would be wonderful, thank you!” I said graciously.

No – Mom had something far more expensive and extravagant in mind. Orders of magnitude more expensive than a dinner.

I realize that having loving parents who are happy that you are still married and want to gift you really expensive shit to celebrate is an extremely privileged first-world problem. However, with our marriage problems in the background, I am finding it really hard to get excited about our anniversary.

Everyone says
“Happy anniversary!”
I can’t celebrate.
Cheers, but to what? Photo by Анна Орлова: https://www.pexels.com/photo/crop-woman-with-shiny-glass-against-wall-with-shadow-6041461/

State of The World 2023

The world at large, seem to be about the same. War in Ukraine continues. Violence. The housing market has not improved; Husband and I see some more unsuitable and overpriced house options because nothing else is available. Everyone tells me that we’re headed for a recession and that 2023 is the year when we should be able to take advantage of other people’s misfortune – setting aside how distasteful and tone-deaf that is, I’ll believe it when I see it.

January 1st:
The world has not changed so much – 
Same as yesterday.
New year, same dumpster fire. Photo by Nijwam Swargiary on Unsplash

Back To Work

The worst part about coming back to work after a weekend or a holiday is that, besides the fact that you’re back at work, if your weekend/holiday wasn’t restful and restorative, well, sucks to be you. Break is over. And you can’t complain about your life outside work – it’s not professional.

Going back work after a new year is even worse. Despite the influx of “New year, new you!” style messaging (which I do not like) from everyone everywhere, despite the focus on new year’s resolutions, despite all the business pressures to get 2023 off to a good start, despite the fact that as a manager, I need to give the same “new year, rah rah rah!” cheerleading to my team, I do not feel any of this. I feel emotionally wrung out after yet another tough weekend. I’m supposed to “bring it”, but I don’t have “it”.

Time to buckle down.
I would rather cocoon, but,
New year, new Monday.


TMP, dVerse


  1. Haikus!! Love them!

    I’m sorry you’re struggling so much!! It doesn’t sound first-world to me!! I totally understand!! ❤ I hope you can find some passion or happiness or meaning this year!! You never know!! In the meantime, at least you've got the skill to make your life seem hilarious!! Heck yeah!! 😀 That way we can all laugh with you!!

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  2. I love the JYPku. Or with the state of everything, maybe it should be a JYPeeku! They say “Shit happens!’ but for the most part is doesn’t. It’s the same old dump.

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  3. Well, I guess 2023 can only get better from this point forward. Sounds like you will need to create some events of your own making for 2023. So sorry your year is off to such a sad start! Hang in there!

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  4. I’ve got a few events I’m trying to get out of it you’d like to wear your dress there? 🤣
    Actually no events happy to say.

    “We are in couples’ counseling. No one (except, now, the entire internet) knows this.”

    Once when I was so mad at my husband on our anniversary, I bought him a heart with a whip and cuff links which i used on him gently but it could have gotten s & m fast.. lol.
    It made us laugh and we ended up having a good time.

    another I bought him coasters that said:

    If you want breakfast, sleep in the kitchen, how can I miss you if you don’t go away. I forget the other 2. We’re still together after 50 years of dating and 47 of marriage, so take the birthday dinner for your anniversary and the one advice I can give is go out and celebrate.

    We’re miserable but someone has to be… lol 🤣
    Kidding I actually adore him and it’s all up hill or downhill from here.
    Laugh a little and enjoy somehow someway JYPPEEKU…. 💗

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    • I love parties. I’ll happily take your place at any party you do not want to go to! (Watch, you’re going to tell me that your schedule is filled with terribly boring events like baby showers or something…)

      LOL at your almost S&M story! We aren’t really gift or S&M people, but I love the suggestions.

      “It’s all up hill or downhill from here.” – You know, truer words have never been spoken. Thank you for the wisdom and the laughs.

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  5. Oh my goodness! I have my fingers crossed that things will improve as the year progresses. January does suck, mostly, but the way I see it, anything can happen before the end of the month. As far as the state of the world is concerned, that’s another matter – out of our hands.

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  6. I resonate with things not looking forward to, other people’s joy while our own timeline seems static.. sigh.. here’s hoping 2023 is kind to us! ❤️❤️

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  7. I’m sorry you’re not having a good time. I think “First world problems” is something middle class people say to other middle class people to make the second set of people feel bad and the first set of people feel smug and signal their virtue. It has very little relation to how painful a problem may be. It’s OK to be upset at a problem you have even if it’s a problem someone under siege in Ukraine or starving in Congo wouldn’t have.

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  8. I feel bad about how much I enjoyed reading this… you did an amazing job of turning woes into entertainment.
    It was our 20-something year anniversary in December. It went only slightly differently to usual: He says “happy anniversary!” I say “happy anniversary to you too!” he says “you forgot again, didn’t you?” I lie and say “no, no, I just didn’t know what the date was…” (I always know what the day’s date is, I manage all the family admin). The one improvement on most years is that he didn’t get me a present so I didn’t have to feel quite as bad about forgetting as usual.


  9. I have nothing social on my calendar except my own events and I’d like to keep it that way! Do people actually plan that far ahead? I guess it’s not such a bad idea–if I knew what was coming up later, I’d have more time in advance to think of ways to get out of it. Anyways, I’m sorry that the new year is highlighting things that make you unhappy. Maybe some kind of new approach or mindset is needed. Like, I realized that if I choose not to worry about something, and keep putting it off every day, eventually I’m going to die anyway and I won’t have spent a day in my life worrying about the thing! uh…

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  10. Hola! I hope it gets better. Much better! But you make it sound funny so I can’t help laughing, chica.
    Now, I am curious.
    “Orders of magnitude more expensive than a dinner.”
    What is the special present anyway?

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